Life is pushing me under. Stress Relief?
June 13th, 2009 | by Anthony |pollockkk asked:
Well I am 18 and stressed to the max. I cant sleep at night i stay up crying because my life is so stressful and i honestly feel trapped. I work 4 days awake (25hours), first year college (not doing so well bcuz stress), money issues, problems with boyfriend, not to many friends at home anymore (all moved away for school) health problems, parents just announced divorce (abusive relationship), no family where im from (cousins, aunts, grans..)
I just feel so alone and low. I come on here all the time because ive really got nothing else. I dont get invited places, i keep hearing about more and more people hating me, and i am slowing closing my door on life in general. I know im not the only one but it feels like it. I feel so bad about myself all the time that everything is my fault that for some reason im just one of the many people in the world that dont deserve happiness.
What can i do to get my mind off of everything. (talking doesnt help, just worsens my situation)
Thanks*
MILA
8 Responses to “Life is pushing me under. Stress Relief?”
By Glowfish on Jun 14, 2009 | Reply
Your life does not sound stressful or overwhelming at all compared to most college students. Stop feeling for yourself, you could be living in Africa and starving to death?
By yaktur on Jun 16, 2009 | Reply
My goodness girl, you’re just starting life and you’re falling to pieces?
From what you described about school, work, etc…..you sound completely normal!
Just don’t let your feelings take your common sense from you, just take control of yourself, focus on what is important NOW - finishing your education!!
There will be time for boyfriends and other social fooling-around when you have time. But right now the only thing you should focus upon is your education and completing it as successfully as possible.
Don’t worry about friends, etc……they won’t help you pass your exams. Only you can do that. Worrying about friends is very high-school……
You’re an adult now, not a kid anymore.
By lifestudent on Jun 19, 2009 | Reply
Breath…(seriously…take a deep breath…)
When you let it out, realize that you cannot control what others
think and do…it’s not your fault.
Try to choose one problem at a time to work on…do your best
(to concentrate) on that one…
Also realize that life is full of ups and downs, there will ALWAYS
be ups and downs…no matter what you do. At times, how
you handle the ups are more important (and harder) than the
downs.
No matter what, the sun will rise tomorrow…how are you
going to greet the day? Breath and realize that there will
be opportunities every day for you to make things better.
Cheers.
By Shinji on Jun 22, 2009 | Reply
If you cannot like yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, trust yourself, be good to yourself… you cannot possibly epect these things from others.
You are suffering from “deer in the headlights” syndrome… if you stay focussed on things you do not like… you will be hit by them constantly. Change what you focus on… avoid self pity, and realize that even if you are alone, you can still be happy. If you cannot be happy alone… then it stands to reason that you cannot be happy around others either.
By ol' okie on Jun 23, 2009 | Reply
See a doctor, it could be anything from a nutritional problem to depression. Sounds like perhaps some counseling might help with self esteem problems, you know in the back of your mind that people don’t **** you for no reason. Shutting yourself off won’t help, talk to someone, who if they can’t help, will tell you who & where you can get it. This all passes, partly is probably mourning your leaving childhood behind & feeling the first jolt of being an adult, to some extent this is normal.
By oneguy@finallysomethingworked on Jun 24, 2009 | Reply
Hey chic.
Everyone goes through some rough periods in their life. This is just a temporary one for you. Being in college, you should be able to find some pretty cool upbeat people to hang out with. Start there. If you’re surrounded by bad people, some of their negativity & complaining is bound to wear off on you. Find some decent people to hang out with.
One thing that I’ve found that really helps you deal with stress and anxiety is a daily dose of fish oil. The omega 3 fats in fish oil are really good for your brain & nervous system. It’ll help you deal with the stress you’re experiencing. Do some research on it.
You should also check into an on campus counseling program. Every college I know of has a place for people in your situation to get support from other caring students.
Count your blessings. I know it doesn’t seem like you have many. But, you really do. Be grateful for them. Then put yourself in a situation to improve the rest.
Good luck.
By johnanddakota on Jun 27, 2009 | Reply
stop for a sec. you are letting to much get in the way of the big picture. a man once told me when i felt like you do, ” most people wish they had your problems” now dont take it the wrong way it just means that things can always be worse. instead think a little more positive. you are going to school you have a job, and always remember treat yourself well if not it will just get worse. the money prob., b/f, parents, all the xtra stuff bothering you WILL work its self out. dont fret. things can allways be worse be glad there not try to remember the dumb stuff you did when you were younger, the funny things that happened last week. your normal and you will be ok.
By Ginger R on Jun 30, 2009 | Reply
First of all, ignore people that tell you you’re life isn’t that bad for some crap reason of globalization despair. Don’t ever let anyone deny you of how you feel. No, your life doesn’t sound like a cake walk, but it does sound like you will get through it. It sounds that way because of the person you are, admitting that you’re overstressed and going through hard times.
There isn’t anything that anyone else can tell you to give you the answers you need right now. No one else is you. You were born to endure this and you will get through it because it’s apart of your destiny…written in your life story.
Getting some rest. Whatever overtakes your mind in the midnight hour cannot be resolved until daylight. Money issues will be around until you die; they’re the only two things absolutely certain in this life.
As for the boyfriend, if he doesn’t understand and can’t be there for you there is no need to carry around more baggage than you have to. Now is the time to meet new friends and you can do that by putting yourself out there. Get involved in things that interest you. I know you feel alone, but you don’t have to. There are people that come into your life at the right place and time to help you.
Have faith and believe in yourself. You will get through this and when you reach the otherside you’ll look back and feel like you can conquer anything. Life’s tests make you stronger if you don’t let them break you. You’ll be okay and take it one day at a time. Good luck and God Bless.