Wife is pregnant. Is there anything I can do to reduce her stress (yoga, food, massage?) what worked for you?
October 28th, 2008 | by Anthony |Bo asked:
She has a BAD anger management issue and she is seek a profficial but i want to help as well. I know stress is bad and right now you could say i was the main point of her stress because i am so excited and she is worried. both families knows so it isn’t hiddin and yes we both want the baby. and yes we know it will change our lives. (please no horrible answers that get off the topic i have posted about “Stress reducer!”)
VALENTINA
13 Responses to “Wife is pregnant. Is there anything I can do to reduce her stress (yoga, food, massage?) what worked for you?”
By janey + 1 on Oct 31, 2008 | Reply
You’re onto something with the Yoga suggestion. I never got too stressed out, but i knew moms who did and we ALL attended a prenatal yoga class, and i had a DVD at home also, so that i could practice every night of the week. It helped my pregnancy on so many levels! I was relaxed, i was limber, i was breathing and eating right, and when it came time to deliver (unmedicated at home) the **** pretty much flew out
I’d gently chide her about a yoga routine. Its great to build strength in the right places, relieve back pain, prevent vericose veins, and strengthen the kegel muscles 
By arttender on Nov 1, 2008 | Reply
That is scarey. If she is so stressed, how is she going to handle being a mom. Wow.Maybe movine to a quieter area, less traffic, no noise. Maybe she should quit her job.Anger mgmt is big issuse that stems really deep. you don’t want that attitude passing to your child. Yikes.
I am serious and I am not trying to be rude or sarcastic but anger is a very serious emotion and anger management issues neesd to be addresses. Otherwise, they will just keep getting worse and worse. yoga is not going to do anything. You have to find the root of the problem. Why is she angry,otherwise, yoga and massages will just temporarily mask the problem. Think of it this way, you don’t want her to harm your child. She needs help professional help, not yoga.
By honey on Nov 4, 2008 | Reply
I do water aerobics. It’s not fast paced but it gets rid of some of the extra tension. I find that being pregnant, you can’t over do it with exercise and by walking and aerobics, It wears me out a little so I can have a decent sleep.
By chelsea v on Nov 6, 2008 | Reply
i had this massage oil from bath and body works, Eucalyptus Spearmint. it helped me so much, my husband would massage my feet and my back and it would really relax me and clear my head.sometimes even my scalp.the bubble bath and the shower gel really is good too. it just is very soothing and calming, helped me to sleep and stop thinking so much
By elsie on Nov 6, 2008 | Reply
I love it when hubby cooks dinner or takes care of the chores I don’t like or that tire me out especially since I’m pregnant (laundry and dishes especially). Just help her out when she needs it. Sometimes she’ll still get upset, but its tough being pregnant. She’s worried, so maybe she wants to talk over some of her worries with you–ask her what’s wrong, and do some research on pregnancy to help alleviate her fears. Most women are tickled pink when their husbands decide to take an active role in learning about pregnancy, childbith, and parenting.
By geminirose85 on Nov 7, 2008 | Reply
Honestly, just do what she wants you to do when she wants you to do it. Don’t get in her way!! She’ll be fine soon enough!!
By Lucille Luna on Nov 10, 2008 | Reply
well just try to be verry patient with her. my husband was completely confused when I got pregnant and really didnt understand that i got snap at any moment and then he’d snap and me and then we’d fight yada yada yada, now that we have our baby I look back and understand how it may have been frustrating to him because I was always crying for no reason.
but just try to be patient
foot rubs will be VERY nice towards the end of the pregnancy because her feet will probably swell up like balloons, so just prop her feet up and try to get the swelling down.
she may have midnight cravings…support her in this too.
just let her know your there for her always
let her listen to classical if your into that sort of thing.
and if she is worried…when she talks about it…dont just be like “we’ve been through this YOU WILL BE FINE!” …just tell her in a calm way that you will do everything in your power to make sure her and the baby will be ok and you will always take care of them.
reassurance is always nice
and romance isnt dead once your wife is pregnant, so dont stop surprising her!
i hope this helps =)
congrats on the baby!
By Brynna I on Nov 10, 2008 | Reply
Well, ask your wife what she needs from you to help her go through this as smoothly as possible. I can’t really answer this question because I don’t know what she needs. But let her know that you are always there for her, and do little things for her like massaging her back when it’s sore and making dinner for her.
By CJ on Nov 11, 2008 | Reply
Keep the house clean, do the dishes, cook, etc. For me, I would be so much happier if my husband would only make an effort to help around the house.
By Christ_follower 24/7 on Nov 11, 2008 | Reply
For us my hubby was a big help.
10. Just treat her well and be a loving, supporting (not over bearing) father!
1. Get her the food that she craves (if it is healthy but allowed to indulge once in a while. Do not criticize)
2. Offer to fix dinner and meals
3. Pick up around the house allow her to relax and get the extra sleep she needs but do not force her.
4. Offer a foot rub! These are wonderful stress reducers and as she gets bigger she will not be able to reach lol. You can get a pan of warm soapy water and gently take a washcloth and wipe her feet slowly. Telling her how much you love her. My hubby did this for me.
5. Read to her if you enjoy reading together
6. Allow her some alone time… while is is good to pamper her she will need some time alone and may feel like you are following her around. It depends on how she is.
7. You can also find a pool (heated at this time of year) and take a dip. It is good to have your big belly to float for a time and does reduce stress.
8. Sit down and talk about future vacations and things. A good starter would be to ask her if she could go anywhere in the world where would that be and why? Have fun talking about what you would do and take her there mentally. This will also be good later on when she is in labor to have a focus point…. “let’s go back to that island with all the sand can you hear the…” that kind of thing. Worked for me
9. One thing my bro in law did for my sis in law when they were first married. One night she was just angry about something that happened at work she told him, “I could just grrr break some dishes!” he asked her if she was serious and she said yes. Then they went to goodwill or a cheap second hand place and bought a bunch of dishes. He took her to a secluded parking lot and brought some trash bags and a push broom and allowed her to break those dishes! I thought that was awesome! It really helped her to get that tension out and now they can laugh about that for years
Congrats and blessings
By melissa n on Nov 13, 2008 | Reply
Your wife is lucky to have a husband who is concerned with her any your unborn child. Although many women find yoga soothing and relaxing, not every woman is the same. If she is willing to try yoga, great. It does not really matter what she does, just as long as she is relaxed. I found watching movies, chatting on boards with other pregnant women and reading to be my favorite activites. Your wife may have fluctuating horomones and may become easily frusterated or very tired at times. Your patience and love will help more than anything else.
By Buda411 on Nov 14, 2008 | Reply
belly rubs, foot & back massages, cook dinner and clean up around the house, those will all be HUGE helps!
By little mommy to be on Nov 17, 2008 | Reply
well im 31 weeks right now and depending on where she is at just remember that if you start doing something she really likes you are going to have to continue to do through the rest of her pregancy. my suggestions is when she starts getting puffy feet give her a foot massage. tell her that she is beautiful even if you really dont think she is. let her know how attractive she is and how much you do want to love her. now some pregnant people are wanting it all the time and some dont at all. for me i dont at all and everytime my husband trys it just pisses me off more and i go into this whole crying thing and i cant even stop my self. i just dont feel like being touched if she is like that then i feel mad for you but if you really what her to be less stressed and more relaxed you are going to have to hold your self back. remember that she is going to get very large and if she is not used to being large she is going to be very comfortable about herself. even if you try to do something nice like cuddle you dont want to make her feel pinned down at all and you are going to want to help her with getting back up. if she wants you to be distant then do it. let her hang out with family and friends with out you when she comes home she will be more happy. try to help out with alot of house work remember that even if you are making more then her and even work more then her, her body is going through so many changes and working harder then its used to. do the dishes and take out the trash so more of the heavy lifting stuff so she doesnt feel like she has to. remember that she is high sensitive and may not make sense but just go with.