Anthony Armand

What to do when I feel like losing it?

Mommy asked:


First a lil bio. I’m 22. Mother of 2 year old and 5 year old. Expecting. Married for 3 years. Lost my mom in 2008. A PT student.

So my stress level is kinda high right now and I’ve never been that good at time management or stress management at all. So my problem is, when my son, who is 2, screams and throws his tantrums I quite literally want to punch a wall or rip my hair out. He’s really really loud and high pitched. (He’s got fluid in his ears and it makes it hard for him to hear i think) He’s due for his 2nd set of tubes (Thank GOd) But what makes it so hard for me I think, is not just how loud he is, but that everyone says it’s my fault that he’s like that. They say I babied him too much as a baby. My daughter who is 5 (who is my step daughter and we married when she was 2) used to throw tantrums too, but she was never as high pitched as him and everyone just seemed to deal with it… Now though, when my son does it, it’s my fault and I let him get away with everything blah blah blah… Well I do set limits with him, but it’s different when they can’t hear you as well… so I just feel hopeless because everytime he yells i know everyone looks at me as the bad parent, even my husband. Bc i didn’t birth our first she’s perfect and doesn’t do anything wrong. What do i do? I quite literally am breaking down little by little. I feel depressed all the time. I feel worthless. SOmetimes I feel like they would all be better off without me… =(

ALETHIA