My anger due to stress work and money broke up my relationship. do you believer people can change?
November 23rd, 2008 | by Anthony |Brett F asked:
i had a bad anger problem that broke up my relationship.. it was cuz of stress, i got laid off and have a hard time finding new work.. shes very into astrology and im a gemini…
back to the point
my anger tore us apart and i love her more than words can express.. do you believer people can change if its so in their heart and they know they were wrong. if a person loves someone so much it kills them to live wothout them and they cry day and night worth out them.. do you believe if a person gets to that level they can tryely forever change and never let anger be an issue.. i love her so much and would never want to risk being withouther again because its so painfull.. she believes people dont change.. i believe in my heart i can
what do you think?
if someone has it in there heart do you believe they can overcome anything?
have you or have u known someone that has anger issues and has emotionally hurt their loved one?
we moved across country to start a life and then the economy killed my profession and i was out of work the main cause of us fighting and always having a disagreement…and now all she sees are the bad fights we had and the negetive parts of out relationship when it was mostly amazing..
losing her has been the worst thing for me and i spend hours a day crying over what i lost. and that was the love of my life..
i want and have changed because i want to and because i need to. but do i deserve another chance even if she sets all the rules and holds all cards. i start a new job monday and after 2 weeks i can afford to go to a anger management class but untill then i have been reading books.
CHRISTINIA
4 Responses to “My anger due to stress work and money broke up my relationship. do you believer people can change?”
By Lonely Soul on Nov 25, 2008 | Reply
I want to congratulate you on the new job.
Yes, I do believe that people can change if it is in your heart and they are willing to put forth the effort. But, you have to understand that she was going through the anger right along with you. She’s probably afraid that this is going to happen again when things get stressful for you…and they will. As you know, life is stress. It is going to take you a long time to rebuild her trust, but it sounds to me like you are taking the right steps to prove to her that you are willing to make important changes. Even if things never happen with her again, you are learning how to deal with your anger now, which you can bring into the next relationship.
I am not saying that she won’t see the change in you and come back…I’m saying that this is something you need to do for yourself.
I wish you luck!
By Zeistermeister on Nov 27, 2008 | Reply
Why are you so angry? Calm down by listening to the classical musics, go to a quiet place and do some introspective reflections. Time to clean up your inner psyche, it is dirty and it needs a good bath. Your desire to change is a starter, keep focus on the progression. Your angerness might started from your childhood, or even B4 this lifetime. Take time out for healing yourself first. If you’re unsteady, who’s gonna rely on you for a relationship or support?
Let go and meditate and read some buddhist scriptures, it will do you some good….. Good luck!
By South Side Chick on Nov 30, 2008 | Reply
I am sorry you lost your job! I totally understand what you are going thru. I am in the same situation as you. My boyfriend got laid off, although he is getting unemployment it is not enough. I try not to get mad and let the anger get the best of me, but as you know its easier said than done.
Right now all you can do is show your ex you CAN change and you will. Did you tell her you are starting a new job on Monday? That might help. I would just tell her you love her and you want her in your life, If that doesn’t work, then I am sorry my friend, but you will have to move on. Always trust in the Lord and he will get you thru anything.
Good Luck!
By prettynpink77 on Dec 2, 2008 | Reply
The key to change in anyone is want, If you truly desire to change and its in your heart to change, then it is possible. Make goals for yourself. Start with a day by day goal, then weekly, then monthly etc. Sit down and figure out your triggers. Write them down and acknowledge them when you see them. Come up with ways that are productive in handling your anger for example if you feel rage coming on before it gets out of hand take a step back, take a deep breath and count slowly until you feel calm enough to handle the situation, or talk a walk. The key is to accept accountability and accept your faults, then acknowledging them and putting an effort to change. Also make sure that if she comes back, you don’t get into a comfort zone and forget and go back to your ways. From here on out you must make a daily effort to changing the way you handle stress, anger, tension etc. Explain to her that you are learning and making an effort, yet you are not perfect. She has to be ready and willing to learn with you.