Girls. Please help me with my girlfriend?
January 4th, 2010 | by Anthony |captain planet asked:
I am kind of a stressed personality, and my girlfriend is probably one of the most important people to me. And I have tried taking things like tranquilizers and other things (nothing illegal) to try and stop stressing, but she has told me not to take them anymore because I collapsed when I was on holiday and it wasn’t good, and I still haven’t quite told her everything that happened yet. But - I guess I’m starting to lose her because I don’t think she really needs someone like me in her life.
I tend to open up to her alot
I am really just wondering if it is to late to fix something like this?
Also I am going to take like self confidence and stress management classes, just what other things could I do to redeem myself?
I really do care about and love my girlfriend and I want to propose to her at some point, I just need to make this right for her first - so I’m willing to do alot.
Thanks
ELLENA
13 Responses to “Girls. Please help me with my girlfriend?”
By Nicole S. on Jan 6, 2010 | Reply
Don’t take tranquilizers and just let her know you’re changing & that you are getting help. Be more fun with her. Get a good laugh
By Christina on Jan 6, 2010 | Reply
You sound very caring and your girlfriend is lucky that she has someone that thinks of her as much as you do. Your stress IS a problem, and if the pills aren’t working, you should see a shrink. As much as some people feel uncomfortable with the idea of a psychiatrist, I had similar issues to you and after a month of sessions, I felt a lot more relaxed and happy.
You need to fix this before you propose. You’ll be more ready then.
By ஜ♥Mad!son♥ஜ on Jan 6, 2010 | Reply
Exersise and eat the right foods.
Get enough sleep. Organise youself but be carefree about some stuff.
Go out hiking every now and agian and take holidays.
try some extreme but not too extreme sport. like white water rafting, wakeboarding and tubing or surfing.
theyre all soooo fun. and will make everyday life seem so safe.
and every now and again when someones in danger - laugh about it.
Its easier said than done, but you can work on it if you really want to.
Just whatever happens DONT STRESS ABOUT IT>
By jeff on Jan 8, 2010 | Reply
You should fix it then propose.
IF you are stressing, go to a spa, get a massage,go in a hot tub, or smoke weed.
By friskynfrisky on Jan 10, 2010 | Reply
Now girls will contact with you for help. Its good chance for you. Leave x-one and get new one.
By Stephanie on Jan 11, 2010 | Reply
its not too late if she is telling you not to take the stuff she cares about you and confidence and anger management classes are what you need and maybe go to counceling
By Vickie on Jan 13, 2010 | Reply
Nicole is right, dont take tranqs. just try to relax and be honest with her tell her if You have a problem, if She loves you She will understand and help You
By marriagecoach1 on Jan 14, 2010 | Reply
If you had the situation reversed would you want to be around you? You need to stop the drugs and chill out. Learn to relax and not stress. NO ONE WANTS TO BE AROUND A NEEDY PERSON WHO IS STRESSED OUT ALL OF THE TIME, IT IS NO FUN.
Women are attracted to strong self confident men. You need to man up and grow a pair and become more self confident. You can increase your self confidence by setting tough goals and achieving them. This will increase your self confidence. Anythng less and your gf is history
By Laila on Jan 15, 2010 | Reply
Im also a very stressed out person… and ive got a gazillion other psychological disorders…I find that the best way to handle it is talking to people that are the closest to me… i think you should sit down and talk to her about it because obviously you two are very close… maybe shes overwhelmed.. and im not trying to bring you down at all but i was very much in your position and i chose to break up with my bf because i knew it was hurting us both that i was unintentionally becoming more of a burden to take care of rather than a girlfriend… maybe breaking up is the best for you two or maye you two just need to talk… but the best way to go is the way that will be better in the long run… but i would definately try talking first.
i wish you luck… i hope both of us can find some chill time while we’re not stressing over everything.
By Sona on Jan 17, 2010 | Reply
Wow .. that’s touching. Its clear you really care about her. What you just said here tell her that. Most probably she feels disconnected and feels she cnt help you. There is definitely time to fix this. Dnt think she will understand on her own. Tell her in worlds how much you care about her and you will get your problem in control just because you dnt want it to break your relationship. Express your fear, love, and need for her support. Tells her you know she deserves a better version of you and you promise to give her that. I am very sure she will listen and you will be able to fix everything. I wish you the very best. Good Luck.
By EM on Jan 19, 2010 | Reply
Stop with the tranquilizers unless prescribed by a doctor, good 4 u wanting to take classes that will help u become a better person. I think ur headed in the rite direction and wish u all the best.
Mayb getting more restful sleep that is enough hours. If u don’t spend enough time with her try doing more things with her, things she likes but don’t over do it cos she won’t take it as u truly wanting to do it. Let her know that ur willing to take her advice and ur trying to improve cos u wanna give her the best and that u need her help. If she can continue to listen u can continue to talk and u can both open up to each other and eventually u will get where u wanna be and ur relationship will be stronger.
All the best.
By Sasha Quintana on Jan 21, 2010 | Reply
everyday with this kid
By BE on Jan 22, 2010 | Reply
You sound like an amazing guy who cares a lot about your girlfriend. From the sounds of it, you seem like you would put her first before anyone else, but at the same time, the fact that she is concerned about you taking the tranquilizers demonstrates how she cares about you too. i know its hard to control stress and anxiety because i too struggle with coping with stress and i find it extremely hard to open up to people. But when i finally did open up, i found it really really helped.
i know its sometimes hard to put all your trust in another person, but maybe put your trust in her. listen to what she says… try and stop taking the tranquilizers for a while and rather try and open up to her - its worth a try. if she loves you, then she would be willing to do anything to help and nothing you say would push her away rather make her happy that you confide in her for help.
i asure you that you she will listen and try her best to help - which is a sign that it isnt too late.
i wish you all the best - i really do