Anger management? Only ppl who have successfully made a difference in their own behaviour please?
December 21st, 2008 | by Anthony |Noz asked:
I’m under a bit more stress at the moment than I usually am and need to understand how to try and control what I’m saying and stay more calm and peaceful.
CORINE
5 Responses to “Anger management? Only ppl who have successfully made a difference in their own behaviour please?”
By Psychologist In The House on Dec 22, 2008 | Reply
sometimed i have to slowly listen to my breathing closing my eyes and counting to 10
By Warrior of Light on Dec 25, 2008 | Reply
the first step in it is determination along with practice.
we also need to learn how to use defense mechanisms like directing anger on other safer things. and using outlets too to let out your feelings through writing, intrapersonal communication. it also helps if we try to understand our anger more.
By kitty on Dec 28, 2008 | Reply
Have you ever tryed “automatic writing”? I haven’t, but it;s something like journaling but you just write and and basically “disembody” these feelings until your pen stops and your mind is entirely clear.
I’ve had some issues with anger, writing always helps. When I let myself take it out on others, it really never goes so well, and I always am even less happy for hurting someone else.
Exercise is great for the mind and body as well……
By Jedidiah on Dec 28, 2008 | Reply
I change the focus my attention from the offender to me. Thinking about the offense or the person only feeds fuel to the fire. As I focus my attention on myself, I repent to God about how I let anger control me, and how I wrongfully judge the offender. I then command all spirits of anger to leave. I’m back to normal, and instead of tearing the other person apart, I can now talk to the offender sanely, and even help the person change, so they will not be offensive the next time. When I commit my matters to God like this, God can freely work in my situations to turn evil for good. It works EVERY time for me.
By atoms555 on Dec 29, 2008 | Reply
Dear angry woman,
I appreciate the answer you gave me about ” intelligent design”. I’d like to share with you my feelings about anger.
First and most important is to know that anger is good! It’s what you do with it ( of course) that makes it bad. If you haven’t read “Job” in a paraphrased version, I’d highly recommend it. God did in no way tell Job that his anger toward Him was evil.
Also, anger always comes from hurt. Deal with the hurt and you deal with the anger. And when you approach someone with your anger toward him or her ( be careful not to place your pearls before swine), explain to that person that their behaviour has cause you to feel a certain way–angry, hurt, disappointed, etc.: this way, the person can’t tell you you’re wrong because no one can tell you how you feel!
Feel your anger and do something with it when possible (I’m advising myself as well)–don’t suppress it. This is what turns it to evil. Suppression leads to depression and apathy and a breeding ground for revenge. I believe this is where child abuse is conceived and then often runs down in generations.
On a practical level, aerobics always helps filter out all kinds of meanness. Your job, chores and stressful to and fro don’t count. Walking for me has changed my life.
Thanks for listening, Tom